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COMPREHENSION TEST #6

Time allowed: 10 minutes. No conferring with others allowed.

Indicate which statement is true:

1. Babies should preferably be

A. Ignored when they cry at night

B. Sleep trained before they are born

C. Seen and not heard

D. Loved to bits, even though they don’t sleep through

 

2. What is the “extinction method”?

A. A method used to put out fires

B. When parents suddenly die of sleep deprivation

C. When babies are left to cry indefinitely and they eventually give up and stop crying

D. When you are crying and your partner ignores you till you give up and stop crying

E. How dinosaurs died out

 

3. Why should we try to avoid sleep training?

A. It’s unnatural

B. It goes against parenting instincts

C. It’s not good for baby in the short term

D. Not good for baby in the long term

E. It often doesn’t work

F. It has to be repeated

G. All of the above

 

4. If you do NOT sleep train your baby, he will…

A. Turn into a spoilt brat

B. Never sleep through

C. Sleep just as much as a baby who has been sleep trained

D. Become an emotionally stable human being

E. Go through phases of good and bad sleep

F. Be refused admittance to nursery school

G. B, C and D

 

5. Your baby’s sleep habits are a reflection of…

A. Your baby’s temperament

B. Your style of parenting

C. The vampire in the mirror

D. Your MIL’s plans

E. The tranquil view of the lake from the deck, sipping sundowners

 

6. The sound of a baby crying

A. Causes your milk to leak

B. Causes his mother to start crying

C. Elicits a powerful response in human adults

D. Can be turned down using the “volume” button on the baby monitor

E. Is your cue to pour yourself a small glass of wine

 

7. “Ferberizing” a baby is

A. Putting him in a special rocker that makes him sleepy

B. Leaving him with MIL for the night

C. Feeding him Ferber’s Baby Food

D. Leaving him to cry for gradually increased periods of time

E. Not a good idea

 

8. Your child will start sleeping through when

A. You let her sleep in your bed

B. You sleep in her bed

C. She is ready to sleep through

D. She leaves home

Extract from: How Babies and Toddlers Really Sleep by Erica Neser (2014 edition)

COMPREHENSION TEST #5

Time allowed: 10 minutes. No conferring with others allowed.

Indicate which statement is true:

 

1. What is a night terror?

A. A horror movie that you watch late at night

B. When a child suddenly wakes up screaming at night

C. A small, nocturnal type of dog

D. When a parent suddenly wakes up screaming at night

E. The fear of not being able to sleep when your baby has finally fallen asleep

 

2. How can we identify a late sleep phase?

A. When a child is still asleep by the time he arrives at school

B. When a child starts sleeping through at age 12

C. When the entire day’s activities start and finish late

D. What people without kids do on weekend mornings

E. When your sleep schedule clashes with your work schedule

 

3. Indicate which of the following are environmental factors?

A. The Rainbow Warrior

B. The neighbour’s demented rooster

C. Recycling and saving water and electricity

D. Baby’s leg is stuck between the wall and the cot

E. Al Gore’s Inconvenient Truth

 

4. What are the potential effects of an irregular schedule?

A. Constipation

B. Night waking and nap problems

C. Being late for work

D. Remembering to eat every second day

E. Demand feeding

 

5. Indicate which of the following are sleep associations

A. Sleepyass.com

B. The International Association of Sleep

C. Mum’s hair

D. Mum’s boob

E. A secret society of people whose children don’t sleep through

 

6. How would you handle separation anxiety?

A. Ignore it and it will go away

B. Give your child extra love, attention and reassurance

C. Ask your GP for a prescription for anti-anxiety medication

D. Hide under your bed until it’s over

E. Buy your child an expensive toy

 

7. What is this author’s favourite sleep strategy?

A. The extinction method

B. The Gina Ford method

C. The Wait it Out method

D. The MIL method

E. The one where everyone sleeps in a big heap

 

8. Have you been over-estimating the amount of sleep that babies need?

A. Definitely, I thought babies slept 20 out of 24 hours

B. Are you mad? My baby sleeps nowhere near these figures!

C. I have no idea how much my baby sleeps and I’m too scared to add it up

D. Only my own sleep – I wish I was a newborn…

 

9. Who or what is Gina Ford?

A. Henry Ford’s second ex-wife

B. Controversial author of childcare books in the UK and a former maternity nurse

C. Your mother-in-law

D. My mother-in-law

E. A shallow place allowing one to walk across the river Gina

F. I have no idea and frankly, I don’t care

 

10. When will your baby have a predictable routine?

A. By six weeks

B. By roughly six months

C. Never

D. Before my baby

E. When he goes to university

F. Two weeks after he gets married

11. What is storage capacity?

A. The amount of baby stuff you can cram into your car’s boot

B. The amount of milk that can be stored in the breast between feedings

C. The number of nappies that you can fit into your nappy bag

D. The amount of milk/food that can safely fit into your baby’s tummy

E. The number of frozen meals you can jam into your freezer

AM I “SPOILING” MY BABY?

Sleep issues and “spoiling” are closely related for many people. It is important to think about this matter when evaluating your baby’s sleep patterns.

A lot of people seem to have double standards when it comes to babies. Consider the following for a moment:

Do you regard yourself as “spoilt” if you …

  • Sleep in the same bed as your partner?
  • Have a few sips of water during the night?
  • Wake up if the covers fall off the bed and you become cold?
  • Need three meals, two snacks, a cup of tea, three glasses of water and one glass of juice per day? (that’s 10 “feeds!”)
  • Need lots of love, affection, hugs and closeness from your loved ones?

You probably said “NO” to most of these questions. Why do so many people see babies as being “spoilt” for wanting the same basic things that we do? Are our expectations realistic at all?

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MAKING CHANGES

Let’s be honest – we want and need our sleep. It is important to find a way to balance our babies’ night-time needs with our need to sleep. A well-rested mother is usually a happy mother. But before we jump in and try to “fix a poor sleeper”, it is wise to dwell on the following points and work out what would be an age appropriate, realistic approach. Accept the realities of having a baby, but do what you can to improve matters.

  • Ask yourself exactly what you mean by “sleeping through” and what other people mean by the same words. You may be surprised at the different interpretations!
  • If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. If you are happy with the situation and things are working well for you, don’t change it. If you don’t think your baby has a sleep problem, he doesn’t have a sleep problem. (If your mother-in-law thinks he has a sleep problem, you may have a mother-in-law problem – with all due respect to mothers-in-law).
  • It’s not a good idea to try to change baby’s sleep pattern only because someone else says you should. (Criticism from someone who doesn’t have first hand experience with a sleepless baby, doesn’t count!)
  • If you have any changes coming up (e.g. moving house, going on holiday) wait until these things are settled before making big changes like moving your little one from his cot to a big bed.
  • If you really do need to make any changes, start with the gentlest, least drastic strategy. If that doesn’t help, try the next one up.
  • Before you decide on a particular strategy, consider how you will feel about it when you think back in a few years’ time. Will you be proud of how you handled the situation? Or will you regret your actions?
  • Whatever strategy you choose, try to approach it so that baby experiences going to bed and falling asleep as something pleasant and peaceful, not frightening and frustrating.
  • If you are feeling exhausted, angry and resentful most days due to lack of sleep, it may be time to sit down with your partner (if applicable) and negotiate some sleep-ins or weekend naps, or taking turns at night.

Remember to have realistic expectations, and also: this too shall pass (even if you don’t “fix the problem” now, it will most likely resolve in time anyway!)

Erica Neser (c) 2016

 

COMPREHENSION TEST #4

COMPREHENSION TEST 4

Not at all how babies really sleep!

Not at all how babies really sleep!

Time allowed: 10 minutes. No conferring with others allowed.

Indicate which statement is true:

What is the definition of sleeping through?

  1. When a baby sleeps from 7 p.m. to 7 a.m.
  2. When a baby sleeps for 8 hours
  3. When a parent sleeps from midnight to 4 a.m.
  4. The ability parents have to sleep while babies and/or toddlers jump up and down on them at 5 a.m. on a Sunday morning
  5. When a teenager sleeps from 4 a.m. to 2 p.m.

What percentage of babies sleep through at 6 months?

  1. 99.9%, mine being the 0.1% that doesn’t
  2. 50%, mine being in the group that doesn’t
  3. The number of friends who have babies divided by the number of times my baby wakes, multiplied by the number of times my MIL has asked if he’s sleeping through yet
  4. If 3[%4$] is 18 and it’s 3 a.m., then x @ 1% for W but only when \= w%
  5. Depends who’s asking

Which factors influence sleep?

  1. Style of parenting
  2. MIL’s two week visit
  3. Type of family
  4. Socio-economic factors
  5. Cultural norms
  6. All of the above

Complete the sentence: Mama = ……….

  1. milk + warmth + protection + love
  2. packed lunch + pocket money + taxi service
  3. doctor + nurse + psychologist + legal advisor
  4. someone who is always yawning
  5. all of the above

Identify three factors which can cause night waking

  1. Hunger
  2. The neighbour’s dog
  3. Dad’s snoring
  4. Separation anxiety
  5. Too much sleep in the daytime
  6. Monsters under the bed
  7. Just because

Complete the sentence: Waking up at night is…

  1. The story of my life
  2. A method of torturing people
  3. The driving force behind the coffee industry
  4. Normal & necessary (for babies)
  5. What no-one else seems to be doing
  6. All of the above

Hang in there mamas & papas. It gets easier eventually. You can do this! 🙂

COMPREHENSION TEST #3

Time allowed: 10 minutes. No conferring with others allowed.

Indicate which statement is true:

How many hours of sleep does a newborn baby need in 24 hours?

  1. 20 hours
  2. 10 hours
  3. 16 hours
  4. Less than his mother
  5. Less than what your MIL says

How many naps does a six month old baby need?

  1. Six
  2. Two or three
  3. None, he can stay awake all day
  4. Same number as his grandpa
  5. Who’s counting?!

How long can a nine month old baby stay awake between naps?

  1. 24 hours
  2. Two days
  3. Two hours
  4. As long as I entertain him
  5. Longer than his parents

Does your baby’s nap pattern resemble the ones given in this chapter?

  1. Perfectly!
  2. Sometimes / vaguely
  3. Not even close
  4. What “nap pattern”?!

Have you been over-estimating the amount of sleep that babies need?

  1. Definitely, I thought babies slept 20 out of 24 hours
  2. Are you mad? My baby sleeps nowhere near these figures!
  3. I have no idea how much my baby sleeps and I’m too scared to add it up
  4. Only my own sleep – I wish I was a newborn…

Who or what is Gina Ford?

  1. Henry Ford’s second ex-wife
  2. Controversial author of childcare books in the UK and a former maternity nurse
  3. Your mother-in-law
  4. My mother-in-law
  5. A shallow place allowing one to walk across the river Gina
  6. I have no idea and frankly, I don’t care

When will your baby have a predictable routine?

  1. By six weeks
  2. By roughly six months
  3. Never
  4. Before my baby
  5. When he goes to university
  6. Two weeks after he gets married

What is storage capacity?

  1. The amount of baby stuff you can cram into your car’s boot
  2. The amount of milk that can be stored in the breast between feedings
  3. The number of nappies that you can fit into your nappy bag
  4. The amount of milk/food that can safely fit into your baby’s tummy
  5. The number of frozen meals you can jam into your freezer

Extract from: How Babies and Toddlers Really Sleep (c) Erica Neser 2014

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COMPREHENSION TEST #2

Time allowed: 10 minutes. No conferring with others allowed.

Indicate which statement is true:

A baby’s sleep cycle is

  1. The same as an adult’s
  2. Wash, rinse, spin
  3. Never as long as I want it to be
  4. 30-60 minutes
  5. As long as I hold him

Babies usually spend the first half of the night

  1. In deep sleep
  2. In light sleep
  3. Breastfeeding non-stop
  4. On dad’s chest in front of the TV
  5. Awake
  6. Happily bouncing off the walls

What are the three different phases of sleep?

  1. Light sleep, deep sleep and comatose
  2. REM, ELO and CCR sleep
  3. REM, light non-REM and deep non-REM
  4. Awake, half-awake and just pretending to be asleep
  5. None of the above

How long (on average) does it take a 3-6 month old to get into deep sleep?

  1. Longer than it takes to reheat my coffee for the fourth time
  2. Three days
  3. 10 minutes
  4. If I put him down, never
  5. Three times as long as his dad

Which of the following factors can influence a baby’s day/night rhythm?

  1. Bedtime, nap times and meal times
  2. Visiting family members
  3. Exposure to light
  4. Television
  5. Whether it is full moon or not
  6. 1 & 3

What is the best way to stay awake while reading about sleep cycles?

  1. Repeatedly slapping yourself on the head with the book
  2. Drinking copious amounts of coffee
  3. Listening to “Bat out of Hell” at full volume
  4. I can’t, so let’s talk about something interesting
  5. No problem, I’m awesome that way

Why is it important to understand baby sleep cycles?

  1. To impress your friends
  2. To have realistic expectations
  3. To be able to have an uninterrupted bath
  4. So that you can control your child more effectively
  5. So that your child can control you more effectively

Extract from How Babies And Toddlers Really Sleep by Erica Neser (C) 2014

WHAT IS “SLEEPING THROUGH” ANYWAY?

So your friends/neighbours/MIL tell you that their child “slept through” at six weeks, making you feel like you and your baby are failing dismally, because you’re getting up five times a night. It may be worthwhile to stop and check out how they define “sleeping through.” I have come across many different definitions:

  • Baby “sleeps through” a feed (so if he normally feeds every three hours, sleeping for four hours would be “sleeping through”)
  • Baby sleeps from midnight to 5 a.m.
  • Baby sleeps from 7 p.m. to 3 a.m.
  • Baby sleeps from 7 p.m. to 7 a.m.
  • Baby wakes up several times but never feeds during the night
  • Baby feeds several times but never wakes during the night

You can see here how we can start believing that our own child is the only one that is not “sleeping through.”

Additionally, when someone asks parents if their baby is sleeping through yet, and the answer is “No” (duh!), they often get all sorts of (unwanted /  unrealistic / crazy / “just let him cry, it’s good for his lungs”-type) advice. As a mother, I find it horrible when that happens, and I have to nod politely and bite my tongue and pretend to agree (it’s not worth arguing about, I always feel). So, in order to avoid this sort of scene, parents often just say, “Yes, of course he’s sleeping through, every night!” and change the topic. And this is how we all start thinking everyone else’s babies are sleeping through.

“An important fact for you to remember is that your baby’s sleep habits are more a reflection of your baby’s temperament rather than your style of nighttime parenting. And keep in mind that other parents usually exaggerate how long their baby sleeps, as if this were a badge of good parenting, which it isn’t. It’s not your fault baby wakes up.” ~ Dr. William Sears

“Sleeping through” is not an event that will happen on a certain night and that’s it. Babies usually start sleeping slightly better/longer on occasion, then perhaps more regularly, then possibly most nights, with a bad night on occasion. And then, just when you’ve told all your friends and family that your baby is now sleeping through, something will change again.

Expect periods of interrupted nights well into toddlerhood, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised now and then. Not every bad night can be understood and explained. Accept that sometimes you will NOT know what’s going on.

Most people who think their baby has a sleep problem, has a perfectly normal child, sleeping perfectly as he should at this age.

Waking up at night is normal & necessary!

Extract from: How Babies and Toddlers Really Sleep by Erica Neser (c) 2015

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